If you don’t follow my Instagram (you should), then you might not have realized I’m on a journey of trying to do better. In school, work, relationships, and just in general. I want to be better and live better. The problem is that old habits die hard and it’s really easy to fall back to the things you’re trying to move past. Doing better is a lot easier said than done but if you break it down into smaller changes it becomes a much less daunting task. One of the things I’m actively trying to do is to stop saying a few things I’ve found myself spewing out of habit. If you’re still with me and you’re still reading, here they are:
“I’m so busy”. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it 100 times. Everyone is busy. You’re not alone. You’re not special. Life is life and sometimes it becomes a lot. Between work and friends and family and everything else we want to do, life can be hectic. We’ve become the generation of saying “I’m so busy” as an answer to how we’re doing. I’m guilty of this even though I hate when other people say it. I get that it’s almost February but my new New Year’s resolution is to stop saying I’m busy. I chose my choices and my responsibilities and I’m glad I’m busy and have things in my life that matter.
“Sorry”. Bump into someone on the sidewalk? You can say sorry. Accidentally cut someone off on the highway? Throw up an “I’m sorry” wave. But, if you’re living your life and doing you, don’t apologize. Stop apologizing for who you are and what you choose to allow in or remove from your life. We over apologize because we don’t want to offend people. We apologize because at some point it became ingrained in us that we need to always apologize. Perhaps this is a female thing, but there’s no need to apologize unless you truly are guilty of something other than saying how you feel or doing what’s best for you.
“Yes”. So I think we should be saying yes to more and also yes to less so bear with me while I try to make this make sense. Say yes to things that scare but excite you. Say yes to trying new things. But, don’t say yes to things you truly don’t want. Don’t make plans with someone you don’t really care about seeing. Don’t say yes to staying late at work to bend over backward for someone else when you already have plans. Don’t say yes to anything that doesn’t bring you joy.